Balancing all the faucets of life, as a Mom can be one of the most challenging aspects of it all.
It is difficult and sometimes we must pick and choose what needs most of our attention in any given moment and giving equal attention to anyone person or activity seems impossible.
There’s no two of the same days or weeks or months that we experience.
As moms, our lives are ever changing, our children don’t forever stay the same age, our career is always shifting, our mental and emotional stability is always in flux and our relationships with our partners can be strained from time to time.
Which means these ever so changing aspects of our lives is a constant stressor and we must be able to learn how to be flexible with these changes.
There’s a lot of balls in the air when maintaining a life of a mom and I can see why some moms can go on the deep end and some moms have longer periods of depression. Below I have listed a way for us moms to bridge the gap of balancing our lives.
Be Grateful
Being grateful means the ability to recognize the good in everything, even during our trying moments. What I do to be grateful is to list off 2 or 3 positive things in my life that happened that day.
For example, being able to say good night to my baby girls and giving them kisses before they go to sleep is a huge positive to my day.
Another thing I feel grateful about is being able to drive home in a vehicle that is reliable, working AC with a great podcast on and lastly, being able to say, I was able to do everything I needed to do that day.. whether it be going to work, cleaning the house, making dinner, giving the girls baths and ending the night with some quality time with my man… that’s huge.
Whatever it is, find 2 or 3 things that went well that day for you and truly sit with the feeling of appreciation… these little shifts of attention can make the following day more positive and practices your mind to focus on the good.
Goal in Mind
Have a goal in mind, meaning think of a goal you want to achieve in your life… is it to get a promotion?
Become a more present partner/mother? To complete reading a certain book?
Think about a goal you want to achieve that can allow you to focus on achieving this goal.
The good thing about goals is that you shift your mind to focus on the achievement of the goal, instead of the negative things going on in your life… it redirects your attention to something more worthwhile. What is that goal for you?
My goal was to start a blog and write about my journey in self development, this has given my enlightenment and allows me to reflect on how to become a better person… writing about a subject encourages one to learn about the subject in greater detail… and I feel fulfilled.
Be Honest
Be honest about where you are, are you in a place of unhappiness? Do you want to make some changes in your life?
Do you feel like you are lacking in some areas that you need to improve on?
Discover what the opposite would look like, what would it look like if you weren’t lacking, what areas in your life would be more happy and fulfilled and how would that feel like? The purpose here is to understand that we all have room for improvement and your goal should be in alignment with what you think you need improvement on.
Work on Yourself
Actively working on ourselves is the best gift we could give to our children, they are the fruits of our teachings, our actions and our day to day responses. So, if we are actively engaging in bettering ourselves, the more our children get to gain from the positive changes.
Listen to motivational podcasts, read more self development blogs, read audio books, take a class/course that can help you understand your mind… there are so many resources to help improve anyone in any thing, its up to you to make the decision to start the process.
Be Patient
Don’t be too hard on yourself, go with the process of our lives… be patient and don’t rush results. Often, we want results yesterday without being able to put the work in.
This one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life, is that one must work hard to achieve anything of any worth. The easy route is usually never the most stable route and lacks the potential growth one must have before reaching a level of success.
Therefore, know that there is work involved, compounded efforts, day after day… and eventually results can sprout but only with commitment to yourself.
Conclusion
To cultivate a well-balanced life as a mother, it is worth some time to attempt at these steps…for me a good day is I am able to tackle 4 out of the 5 steps above and a bad day is I am only living by just 1… but I am always trying.
I believe these 5 steps, when done consistently can will help bridge the gap to a peaceful mind, a balanced life and an overall happier mom, thus a happier family!
Happy Mothers Day!!
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